Big & beautiful versus health

BBWSex4u: BBW Discussions: Big & beautiful versus health

My wife that I LOVE and in my eyes is the most sexual woman in the world… Now all my live I have like and want big woman the bigger the woman the hard my cock got… Now saying that; my wife now has diabetes, high blood pressure, and she had to lose weight and I will help even those I am afraid to lose her thru my decrees in my sexul desired for her as she lose weight… I am a sob for this?

Even though her size might won you over or helped hook you, I would hope that by now she's more to you than just an image in your mind and has is a REAL person and that you love that real person and NOT just an image. If you love her, her health and well being should be at the top of your list of concerns for her, but if her losing weight will cause you to turn away from her, then I might question the love you say you have for her.

first let me say this.. what a honest question hu.. so i will say i admire your honesty oldwolff. cos i think all bbw/ssbbw admirers do find this in the back of our minds at times.. her size vs health... well i feel this too.. and in fact i have told daisy maybe loosing say 50lb to 150lbs would not be a bad idea.. cos i also figure health is time with her and her with the kids too.. so i told her hey. lets get out act togeather.. i stopped smoking.. and she is eating more sensible, portions smaller and healthier foods..its a balance we all have to take into acct.. now daisy is at 290, has some diabetes going on.. did have gestational diabetes when last kid was born.. statistics state that if you have that in 5 yrs or so you can get full blown diabetes. so i do worry.. cos our last kid is now seven ys old.. luckily she does not take shots.. but i gave her 1000 of them.. when she was preg. and hated doing it but had to..now at 290 if she lost 50-150 she would still be large.. and still be over what she was when i married her at 170.. even though i like you have only liked big girls since age 5.. lol... if she got sick or something and was only 99lb.. i would love her just the same.. love is in the heart of a total package.. not just the outside view... ow i may at times think dam i liked her at the larger size... however i would be dam glad she was still around to talk to and enjoy and see her with the kids/grandkids.. so size does mater to us.. but when it comes to time.. i would not mind if she were not as large to be around longer... not for me.. but for downline/kids.. i figure i already got one foot in the grave, so its not at all about me.. or her.. but its all about your downline. as i see it.. if she gains or looses size.. it has nothing to do with my attraction or love for her.. i love the person.. not just her size... now you go a couple months without making love to her.. i am sure you may wish in the back of your mind that she was larger again.. but i bet you will be able to preform just fine and be glad the love of your life is still around... now truth is this ok.. if a gal has nice curves and lines.. she will at any size or age really.. daisy looked fantastic at say 105 as she does at 290 to me..course i prefer her at the 290..lol as i am a total ssbbw addict.. lol but i will love her just the same at any size.. its her mind and smiles that i love the most about her anyway.. then her size.. so i think honest and fair.. we bbw/ssbbw fans have though about this before if we are honest with ourselves. and ya. her size did attract me.. but so did her beauty, mind, and smile.. ok honest and fair.. her good heartedness was a giant turn on to.. she marches to the beat of her own drum and is not into the normal propaganda of things..lol... as i am like that to..so we tend to maybe be attracted by the size, but i think we fall in love for many reasons more than just the one if you really be honest about it.. i would love me blossoming daisy flower even if she stopped blossoming in size.. lol.. in fact i have requested her to loose a few lbs. for the downline and her and myself.. so i would have to agree with our friend waitin2long over here... and i think what he typed is a few words of wisdom..now here is a couple of pics of daisy before and after.. and you got to agree.. she looks great at any size.. cos she got nice curves and lines.. i think maybe you will find your wife does also.. ty..now i do know what you mean. a bbw it goes boing... however it would not for a barbie. but for a barbie you are in love with i think it just may.. love conquers ALL remember.. and why would one care anyway.. its not about you or her at this age.. but should be about your downline mostly..just try to refocus.. and think of all the other reasons you love her , not just her size ,, i think you may be just fine,,now i may prefer to make love to daisy at the larger size. but i would prefer to make love to a woman i am in love with than one i am not no mater her size... again.. i am with waiting2long on this one.. even though i prefer the ssbbws on this site.. there are some just as gorgeous bbws for sure.. outstanding ones in fact.. if a gal has great lines and curves. she will at any size or age... let me ask you this.. is she going to not like you as much just cos you are getting older?.. lol.. it can go both ways also.. lol.. like i said... LOVE CONQUERS ALL,, the rest is just a few details that dont really mater now do they?.. here is daisy at both sizes.. you got to admit she looks good at both sizes.. hence even a barbie can look good.. i may not be AS attracted but it does not mean barbie looks bad... and i know lots of 70-90 yr olds that seem plenty in love, rather they have sex or not, that both look not so great but are extremely happy , maybe sex is overrated anyway at times hu?.. be glad you are alive and have a good wife..i am sure she could name a few things about you to that dont exactly turn her on... but she stays for love.. and respect..life is balance. if daisy gets less in size.. and i hope she does actually. i will love her none the less and still make love to her even if i wish she was larger.. what i want does not matter.. what i need does.. i need a wife and mother for my kids, a grandma for the grandkids..more than what i may want.. its downline.. not self..i need her here more than i need her large,,even if i WANT both..lol.. every dog has his day.. mine is ending, my kids its just starting.. its not about me or daisy.. but about them anyway. we are in our mid 40s... i have a friend that this happened to.. he sees a big girl now and then on the side.. but stays with and loves his wife very much.. if you just cant get it up at all for her if she is not large.. maybe invite a younger man to pleasure her.. but stay married to her..she loves you and the other is just for sex.. people work these things out one way or the other when in love.. good luck.. @->-daisyhubs. even though i prefer her at the larger size bigtime.. she looks good at both.. i will make love to her when she is 85 and looks like crap and as will i... so its not just size.. but is love and if i cant get it up due to her size or my lack of being able to get it up. i will take viagra and do it anyway if she wants it.. lol..like i say things work themselves out in the end. and in the end. we dont count anyway anymore compared to our downline..maybe you will become this old couple that does not have sex much, but are both glad to have each other and be alive helping each other and your downline..if you love her you will stay.. if she loves you so will she no mater the storms that come and go over the test of time.. now you will find out how much you love each other is all .. if she goes you will find another big girl.. if she stays you will know true love even if there is not as much sex or its harder in your mind to do so.. lol best wishes either way..i used to be young and better looking but my wife stays cos she loves me.. if she gets smaller i will stay cos i love her even if i wish she was much larger..maybe be honest about it with her.. invite a couple of young men to bang the hell out of her and only make love to her yourself now and then and now and then have her let you enjoy a big girl.. but stay married and very much in love.. who knows it may work..if i have a prob getting hard sometimes, i am not in the mood or pissed off at something or whatever. i just start licking the hell out of her.. after a short time of that i dont seem to have any more problems..and i forget my frustrations i had..i think in time you will adjust.. lol.. @->-hubs.

ow.. sob or not does not mater.. it is what it is either way.. if there is true love you will find away around it and work it out..if you dont work it out and part paths.. then it was not true love in the first place..and was only true lust and a arrangement. either way you cant loose.. if it was true love you are still togeather and happy even if she is not as large,, if you part.. it is better to be free to find true love than be trapped in a game of lust and arrangement.. so its win win either way.. in the long run.. i hope you try to work it out myself.. and find out all is well even if you wished she was larger.. when i cant figure things out sometimes.. i look into my childrens eyes.. and think what would they want or think.. they know no politics or probs and see more clearly than adults most the time..lol.. it just seems to help me think.. maybe worth a try..@->-daisyhubs words of wisdom.

fast forward a few short yrs.. it goes by fast as you know.. if you asked a old old person.. they may say.. ya my wife.. man she was quite the dish. a real beauty. but as time went on you know she just fell apart.. but to me.. ya i may be crazy , but to me.. she is only more beautiful and precious each day and i thank God for her now twice as much as i did then.. and to me.. she is just a shining beam of beauty more than ever... a woman might say.. ya my ol man you know ow he used to be so debonair..so smooth.. so handsome.. a real catch.. but you know as time went on.. he just fell apart.. and i may be crazy but to me.. he is more wise and more handsome as ever before as a silver fox... and i thank God twice as much today as i did then.. now thats true love... good luck and may God shine on you both..so does it really mater what we look like.. or is it the beauty within that counts... it sure is to me.. @->-hubs.

a lot of women are only very sexual cos thats what they think their husbands want.. and they are right of course , and they do it out of love for their man.. daisy would be far more prudish if it were not for me wanting her to dress as she does and asking her to.. well truth she would be and is a nudist .. i keep having to tell her to put clothing on..she seems to prefer to be naked most the time..lol.. but a lot of her sexualness is cos i corrupt her.. lol.. and cos she LOVES my dumb ass..maybe you will find your wife is not as sexual as you think if you dont want it every second of the day..lol.. maybe she just loves you very very much.. @->-daisyhubs.

almost daily i have to tell her to get dressed.. if i dont she wont get dressed usually. ..i am just bored with seeing her naked.. i tell her if i bring you clothing will you please get dressed... she says ok reluctantly... i bring her a mini bottom.. a top she hangs out of.. never panties or a bra.. i dont even think she has worn a bra for over 15 yrs now and she will only wear panties that time of month.. she complains and says its way to hot to wear anything you dont understand.. lol.. i look at the temp.. its like 60 and i am freezing.. lol.. then after she puts it on.. she says i hope you like it cos its way to hot to wear clothes..lol... i think she looks better with a mini and hanging out top than naked.. she sure looks good around town when we go out anywhere and you know i am so proud of her and love showing her off.. lol...people might think she is more sexual than she is .. ow i have shared her before and she loved it.. but to her its just to hot to wear clothing.. even when its freezing .. she loves a/c and fans.. i love heaters and fireplaces..lol... there are always differences to work out.. but love prevails..she says.. can i take this off now.. i say.. no leave it on please long enough for me to enjoy it.. she says ok.. lol.. but i know she would rather just be nude.. the less or skimpier the clothing the better she likes it as do i of course.. and it has to be cotton or she will complain every time .. i hope you folks can work out your differences... its always something it seems.. but in the end.. love always wins out.. and in the end.. i tell her ok.. take it off if you want.. and she does quickly.. lol...but i try to enjoy the view for a min and get a fast few pics for the site in something cool and i do make most her outfits myself for over ten yrs now..again i hope this has all helped and i hope you can work out your differences.. we all have them love brings all understandings and balance..about two or three times a week she says.. in a good mood.. i will try on anything you want and you can take all the pics you want.. paint me or whatever.. now any day i can take all the pics i want.. but not any day she will try on several outfits for me.. thats only a few times a week..most men fight to get their wife or gf clothing off.. i have to fight to get them on.. always differences.. it takes love...rather if its size, clothing whatever love conquers all,, @->-hubs.

yes you are. If you truly love her then her size wont matter. Her health will.

Hubs, if you had to answer in 50 words or less you would blow a gasket LOL

green..lol.. as you can see i have blown all the gaskets long ago.. and truth is.. i dont care , if it helps one person.. then it is worth all my time and trouble to say it..lol.. and truth also.. ya others like yourself can say it in one sentence.. i cant seem to do that.. but i try to explain why your answer is the right one...lol... instead of just giving the answer..if they knew the answer they would not be asking.. so the they might not also see your answer is right.. in my answer they may see or be able to think it out and see that your answer is the right one... now let me count the number of words it took me to answer you..lol..including the lols..137.. nope i just cant do it in less than 50.. you are so right... all gaskets blown here.. but at least i can see the answers and dont have to ask any questions...lol... and ya green.. your answer is right on the money.. i totally agree with you bigtime.. and with waiting2long.. @->-daisyhubs.

and the 137 was only to that point.. total answer was 191..lol... @->-hubs.

answer to them in the thousands.. but at least it was all words of wisdom.. love conquers all .. @->-hubs...lol

i also pride myself in being the different or strange one.. and my answer to that is .. try to imagine how little i care.. but in fact i care so much and have such love in my heart it is amazing. and that is why my answers turn into books.. i not only want to give the answer.. but i want them to see why it is the right one cos i really do care about and love all of you.. even if you think i am totally nuts(and i am of course)or if you give me my favorite compliment by saying i am the strange one.. i would never want to or accept to be anywhere near what is considered normal or average.. love to you all .. @->-daisyhubs.

honest and fair. crazy to be sane in a upside down backwards world... @->-hubs.

oldwolff.. you need to refocus bro.. not just be attracted to her size.. but be attracted to her love for you and thank God for your many blessings already bestowed upon you... @->-hubs.

in basic profiling 101,, oldwolff., sorry to say... but you seem to be being selfish.. wanting what you want.. her large.. not what is best for the team.. its more important for her heath and keeping the ship balanced for downline and her and self.. not just focusing on your needs or wants, more words of wisdom for you sorry but its honest and fair and you did ask.. best wishes bro.. keep the ship and your mind balanced is what works.. not always just what we want for self... we dont count.. the ship and the downline do more so than us... least thats the way i see it. and it works .. there is your honest and fair answer even if it is a hard pill to take.. @->-daisyhubs.

see i was trying to be nice and let you figure it out on your own with my other answers.. but honest and fair.. no holding back punches... the last answer is why you are out of balance.. ok..good luck and i do truly wish you well .. sometimes our friends will tell us the truths we dont want to hear..see i really do care enough to say the truth..but i hope i dont have to and let you see it for yourself with my other answers..quit thinking of yourself and your fears.. remember fear is the only thing to fear itself...and she does love you or would not be there now anyway..think of her and your downline is the best thing you can do.. @->-hubs.

i hope my answers help you and was worth typing and better than the one liners..and helps you see why the one liners are the right answers also.. @->-daisyhubs.

Her health SHOULD be the most important thing for you to think about.

oldwolf would you prefer to have sex with a blind woman or an amputee. I love my 235# BBW wife but diabetes can be a terrible thing. I would not want those things to happen to my wife. If you love her you won't care about her size just that she is healthy to share not only her body but her life with you.