By guzzilover on Tuesday, December 28, 2021 - 10:07 am:
Getting started needs to be both informative and fun too. I always recognized that it is impossible to know what is in another person’s head and I am sure you agree. Many women will go along with a husbands desire to see her with another man or other men simply to make them happy. I have talked to many women that told me they felt like they were consenting to be raped! Everyone has fantasies and I wondered what I could do to get into my wife's head in a fun way. I came up with a method you may like. It ends up like a game that if used properly can inspire some wild moments. Both of you write down on ••••• cards or any same shape and color paper fantasies or sexy things you may have thought of doing in your life. Present it to your wife as a fun way to inspire new life into your married sex world. Every married couple falls into that dark area where desire takes a back step, it is just natural for the fires to cool after years of marriage. Ask her to take ten and you take ten pieces of paper each. If either you or she needs more that is fine, the more the better. Write down fantasies or sexy things she would have loved to do or would still like to do sexually. It is best to keep any ("ideas") within your marriage. As an example: You could write it would be an incredible turn on for you to lift her skirt / dress for another man to see her panties. The important thing is that you do not show your writings to each other. Have your wife fold the paper in half and securely tape each paper so it cannot be read and you will do the same with yours. The papers should then be placed in a jar large enough to get your hands into easily and select one of the papers. Place the jar away and allow the thoughts to grow in your heads. Over time both your thoughts as well as your wife’s will fester and you both will wonder what the other has written down. When both of you agree to start you will find a way to choose who picks the paper out of the jar. I used to use dice, whoever rolled the first ten got to pick. While the dice were being thrown anticipation builds and you can even tease each other a bit. When one of you finally picks a paper it is opened and whoever wrote the note and their desire will be revealed to both. Then you can discuss it and maybe make plans to try it on some level that you both agree to. There must never be pressure to do anything as that destroys it all. I will tell you to be prepared to learn a lot about each other if you are being honest when you write on the papers. It is not uncommon to learn your woman has few desires, especially outside of the marriage and that you will have many. Some may be appealing while others are not to one of you. That is the purpose of the game, to learn each others thoughts and to also enact some fantasies if you both agree to try them. It is far better to get your lady into a bed knowing she is doing something she may have wanted to try but never did than wondering if she is only pleasing you. As for the black man experience: Some women want it, some detest the idea. Both my wife and I found black men to be much nicer and more caring than white men were. My wife preferred them but not because of size as the fantasy goes. In fact many of them were average or less than average. She preferred them simply because of the way they were with her. I will admit there is nothing sexier than watching a black cock disappearing into your wife's mouth and pussy. The contrast between the black cock and your wife's pussy will afford you the opportunity to see every inch of his cock sliding in and out of her. It is also not unusual for a woman to want to experience a black cock. There is so much taboo about it as well as the false but often mentioned "cock size" thing it is a natural fantasy for both men and women. Rain always had the fantasy of being with a black man but never thought she would ever do it. I can tell you seeing Rain with her first black cock was a thrill that quickly turned into a huge thrill watching her take 5 different black cocks into her pussy in a row. Finally I will advise you to not rush this in any way no matter how it may excite you and your wife. The thing to do first is have some very honest conversation, even a questionnaire that is again answered in privacy from each other. I guarantee you she has many questions in her mind about how you will feel and react if she goes through with this. You also may have many very personal questions in your mind, some of which you may begin feeling comfortable with me to ask. SETTING RULES!! this must be done. As you learn each others desires and limitations you must write down limits and goals and both of you should sign it as a contract between you. Not because it is written in stone but because you can read it and remind each other of what you both agreed to if something goes wrong and it will! Going wrong does not mean in a bad way all of the time. She may react and respond, maybe cum harder or faster to another man. You may help the other guy in getting her to do something she is not ready for etc. The rules can and will change over time as long as you both agree to the changes. All amendments should also be recorded and signed, this will protect your marriage and your respect for each other. Pure sex without love is easily turned into a dark experience without rules for one or both parties. The "extra" parties may walk away from the experience disappointed but they also have nothing except lust and pleasure in their mind. You and your wife have to live and love together and this lifestyle must never be allowed to ruin your relationship and marriage. My wife loved me cleaning her pussy of the few men she allowed to cum in her and she always enjoyed having me smell and taste other men on her body as well as the smell and taste or the condoms they used in her, it turned both of us on. In fact I hated cleaning her pussy, I am not into men at all, but I also knew it kept her in the market for more men she wanted to truly make love to. If you want to know what I mean by making love, let me know. At no time has she ever lost her respect for me or mine for her.
